Thursday, June 4, 2015

THE WAGES OF SIN

-For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.-
Romans 6:23

                Sin…is…costly.  It’s so costly that it will rob you of your life, peace, joy, and hope. It’s insidious, conniving, and greedy. Indwelling sin and its presence in the lives of man can even seem right, when in all actuality it’s wrong. And if you’ve lived any amount of time, you can see the effects of sin in your own life. For its temporal pleasures are fleeting in comparison to the everlasting punishment it can bring without the right remedy: Christ Jesus. Even still if it comes as a surprise to you that mankind is totally depraved and loves the fruit and pleasure of sin, then you may be self-deceived and in need of your spiritual eyes and ears to be opened to the necessity of the Gospel of Christ. So, let me share with you a bit of my testimony and how the Lord enlightened my heart to this truth, this year.
In my estimation, 2015 started off to be an outstanding year full of optimism, aspiration and goals for the future. My wife and I were headed into our second year of marriage and everything seemed to be copasetic. Some call it the “honeymoon” phase. Progressively, we began cancelling debts, working on our five- year plan, applying for graduate school, and really discussing our life pursuits and business, outright. We also began reading the New Testament together, praying, and really seeking the Lord’s direction. I believe our hearts were truly bent towards living for Christ, but it was also riddled with some natural anxiety and fear about the unknown. That’s when death showed up.
In the process of my life plans, death came sharply to my doorstep, too close for comfort. I had an older cousin, James Roberson, be brutally murdered by an ex-girlfriend in cold-blood. The reasoning behind the heinous crime really is inexcusable and it left my family and me with more questions than answers, and more frustration than joy. Even attending the wake and funeral seemed surreal. I couldn’t believe what was happening to my family and to me. In fact, the entire situation had me reevaluating my own life, and I thought seriously about what and who I lived for.
James and I were the exact same age, and although we grew up in early childhood, we drifted apart over the years. Due to God’s grace and different lifestyle choices, I navigated around some of the challenges and dismal circumstances that James and other close relatives have lived through. The generational curses in my family perpetuate the cycle, and healing is still taking place. However, that doesn’t excuse me from the indwelling sin that I tolerated.
Of course, it is a well-known fact that within the Christian walk, we will face challenges of many kinds. It would be unrealistic to expect to live for Christ and not be met with opposition, whether it is self-induced, or inflicted upon you by temporal circumstances. Yet, the promise of Christ to be an anchor for our souls still stands sure, and we should grow confidently in the reassurance of our salvation in Him. So, since we know that’s the truth, then why does fear and anxiety grip us so?
Fear, anxiety, and continuous stress are all derivatives of sin, and a lack of trust, assurance and faith in the Lord in some area. I would venture to say that all of my personal fears, anxieties, and stressors this year were all self-inflicted because of my inability to see Christ in light of scripture and truly trust Him with my future. When we attempt to take our lives in our own hands, manage the outcomes of every situation, and overthink the future, we fall a debtor to sin and every evil work.
Matthew 6 has to be one of the hallmark chapters for me concerning our Christian walk. Jesus teaches his followers of the importance of living our faith and love for God out in simplistic, and steady ways. Our devotion to the Lord is not to be used as an occasion to entertain and be seen of men. Christ says that those who do this have received their reward in full. Further in his teaching, He also says that with our lives we should consider the lilies of the field, and the birds of the air, how they don’t have stress over the circumstances of life, because our Heavenly Father takes care of all of their needs. So, how much more will God take care of his own people. Our faith must hold in Christ and Christ alone.
Sometimes, this truth is easier said than done. I began paying attention to the circumstances of life around me: death in the family, rumors of impending war on US soil, worry about when and where to move for graduate school, and the deceptive lie from Satan that Christ would not be enough for me. That’s when the greatest battle of my life began. Satan used my own intellect, fears, and analytical nature against me, perverting simple profound truths I’ve known for a long time, but flipped them upside down to make me focus more on my own flaws, rather than Christ’s provision. The enemy used a lie that in order for me to be truly saved, there was work I needed to do. But the truth is Christ has done all that needs to be done for my salvation, and he simply asks me to come, die daily, rest in his provision, and fight the good fight of faith in Christ.
To add fuel to the fire, I began to relive all of my past failings day after day after day, to the point that I thought and talked myself right out of faith in God, and into faith for the grave. That’s a debt that I could NEVER afford to pay. And as I hear the words of the Apostle Paul, “the wages of sin is death, and the gift of God is eternal life through Christ,” I ask myself if it’s flirting with sin on any level worth it? Is pornography worth losing my soul over? Is worry, stress, little faith worth losing my soul over? Is vain-conceit, selfish-ambition, and apathy worth losing my soul over? Furthermore, is the fear of man rather than the fear of God Almighty worth losing my soul over?
The answer is NO! No sin of any degree is worth losing your soul over. Christ came to pay for all sins and the wrath of God was satisfied in Christ when he died on the cross. Praise GOD for the outstanding gift of Christ! What a price and what a gift! Life is only worth living for Christ. Paul said, “To live is Christ, and to die is gain.” We should regard every sin, every distraction, and every temporal, fleeting pleasure a total loss just for the sake of gaining the greatest and most treasured prize in the universe: CHRIST! Heaven and hell are at stake every day, and what we do with the Gospel matters. Take the Gospel, study the Gospel, love the Gospel, treasure Christ and grow in discipleship. Let God be your exceeding great reward rather than the fleeting, empty rewards of sin. For the wages of sin is truly death, but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord!


Thursday, May 14, 2015

BEL Decor: Bold. Elegant. Dining Room

We had so much fun decorating this space! The owners used the dining set from their previous home, but we gave it a fresh new look by painting it with Annie Sloan Chalk Paint in Duck Egg Blue! We accessorized with orange, silver and gold hues making the dining room a lovely place to enjoy dinner.


Let us know what you think about this space in the comments below!


BEL

BEL Decor: Bold. Elegant. Living Room

BEL Decor has recently completed decorating a living room space. Check out our work below and let me know what you think!

Living Room
We used a neutral gray palette, and added pops of color with accessories. 

Living Room (front)
The end tables were up-cycled from the previous home and painted with a fresh coat of Annie Sloan Chalk Paint in a custom mix color. They bring symmetry to the room.

Living Room (accessories 1)

Living Room (accessories 2)
Books and vases are always great accessories for table and end pieces.

Living Room (accessories 3)

Please leave comments below and let us know what you think about this room!

Thanks,
Brittany

Monday, November 10, 2014

The Early Bird Gets the Worm

Date night happens to be one of my favorite things to do. I love it when Karlos calls me and tells me to be ready by a certain time because we have dinner reservations! Even though we live together in the same house, I love that he still tells me to be ready because he’s going to pick me up! It makes me feel special. The only things that’s better than date night with my hubby, is date night with my hubby and half off at one of our favorite restaurants.

Karlos and I are diligently trying to stay the course of budgeting, in order to get out of debt, but we do enjoy eating out locally. Jackson (MS) has so many phenomenal local restaurants that I have not stepped foot inside a chain restaurant in quite some time. In order to appease this said budget, and our desire for fine dining, we have found several of our favorite local eateries offer “Early bird specials,” between 4/4:30 pm and 6pm, before the peak dinner hours of 6-8:30 pm. I have compiled a list of four local restaurants with deals no one can turn down. I will start with our favorite from this list…Table 100.

Restaurant: Table 100
Address: 100 Ridge Way, Flowood, MS 39232 (off Lakeland Drive beside Lowe’s)
Deal: Six before six, six select entrees under $15 served from 4:30 pm – 6 pm daily
Catch: Your meal must be ordered by 6 pm. If you walk in at 5:30 they may not give you the six before six menu, but ask for it. It does indeed exist.
Recommendation: Ashley Farms chicken breast, $15 (and it never disappoints…yum!)

Restaurant: Julep Restaurant
Address: 4500 I-55 North, Suite 105, Jackson, MS 39211 (in Highland Village)
Deal: Early Bird Special, buy one meal get one free (for no larger than a party of 5) available nightly from 4 - 6 pm
Catch: You must ask for the early bird special, they will not tell you about it, and you order from the regular dinner menu. Sometimes they forget to apply the early bird special to your check, but as long as your meal was ordered before 6 pm, it’s all yours. Do not hesitate to help them remember. J
Recommendation: Fried Chicken Sandwich, $9.95

Restaurant: Anjou Restaurant
Address: 361 Township Avenue, Ridgeland, MS 39157 (in the Township near the Renaissance)
Deal: Early Bird Menu, several soups, salad, entrees and desserts at reduced price, available nightly from 4-6 pm
Catch: You must ask for the early bird menu and your order has to be in by 6 pm.
Recommendation: Shrimp Linguini, $13

Restaurant: Amerigo Italian Restaurant
Address: 6592 Old Canton Road, Ridgeland, MS 39157
Deal: Early Bird Menu, several soups, salad and entrees at reduced price, available nightly from 4-6 pm
Catch: You must ask for the early bird menu and your order has to be in by 6 pm.
Recommendation: Chicken Marsala, $11.50

These restaurants are doing us all a favor by making date night affordable, plus eating out between the hours of 4 and 6 pm means less wait time! Some of them also have kid friendly early bird menus. I hope you can enjoy these places just as much as we do. Happy Eating!

Love and savings,
Brittany





Wednesday, August 27, 2014

Saved, Single and preparing to Mingle....Do's and Don'ts of Christian Dating

A good friend of mine recently asked me a question about dating. I have posted her question exactly as she wrote it to me:

"So I'm writing down some Christian guidelines for myself in courtship and I realized that I have ABSOLUTELY no idea! Lol. I know everyone is different and I believe the Lord has been leading me to do this now before courtship begins. I've never done this relationship thing God's way before, and just wanted to reach out to you to see what were some guidelines in your courtship with your now hubby that you set in place that kept you from temptation and slipping into sin. Both the little and the big! (Ex: no kissing...no texting or visits after a certain time..) Thanks bunches :)"

Immediately, I thought this was a great question. There are so many of us out there that want to do things the right way, but we just need a little more direction than what we have. We have our scriptures to read, and sermons from the minister, but it's always nice to have the perspective of someone who walked the same road we are on. Here is my response to this question.

When my husband, Karlos, and I first started "hanging out," we both knew we didn't want to waste any time on a dead end relationship. So we made the decision to pray and seek the will of God as we continued to learn each other. We were both still waiting for our spouses before being involved in sexual activity, and that was something that we were in agreement on. No sex before marriage. No compromising. It is imperative to relay this choice to someone you are in a relationship with. If they don't have the same beliefs, morals, and values, chances are the relationship will crumble before it even begins.

Showing affection in ways of hugging and kissing might be my favorite acts, but as girlfriend and boyfriend, Karlos and I thought it would be best to restrict some of these interactions. We only kissed on the lips, nothing extra. We hugged and cuddled, at times, but rarely did we lay on the bed, and spending the night at each other's house was absolutely out of the question. Not on the floor, on the couch, and definitely not the bedroom. As often tempted as we were, we simply knew we could not afford to turn a "one time thing" into a habitual action that may or may not have lead us down a path we wanted to save until we said 'I Do.'

As I pondered what other things I deemed important in Christian dating, I thought about how often Karlos came into my bedroom while we were dating, and it was only once or twice.This may not seem like a biggie, but I think subconsciously it may have played a vital role in helping us stay saved. He was very respectful of me and my body while we were dating, and I never wore anything provocative or enticing to try and seduce him. Respect of one another, and clarity of your dating purpose are critical in helping you stay on track.

The final thing I'd like to submit as being key to keeping it G, is monitoring your eye and ear gates. Movies with sex scenes, or nudity is something we still avoid to this day. Just a few seconds of seeing something like this can have your imagination running wild. This will not aid in trying to keep your thought life righteous, and music can trigger so many old memories. You don't want to revive your past because we know that in Christ we are a new creation.

As you begin this journey of dating God's way, remember this road has been traveled before. Being respectful of your significant other physically and spiritually will carry much more weight in a relationship than being sexually active with them. Know who you are in him, and be confident that you are a new creation in him. You can do this, no matter what your body or your mind tells you.

xoxo
Brittany